Okay, I need to vent just real quick. I am speaking specifically to the dream nay-sayer — not the young ones, the old ones. The people who are in their 40’s or 50’s or more, whose own dreams haven’t worked out for them.
I want you to shut up.
Specifically, I want you not to be the older person in this hypothetical situation:
Dreamer: Actually, I’m putting a little money aside every month. In 10 years or so, I’m going to buy a boat/ motorcycle/ RV, sell all my stuff, and travel around the world.
Dream-killer: That’s a nice idea, but you know, life gets in the way. Things will change — you need to be prepared for the reality of life.
What the eff? What is that? What is that? Is that, “Hi, my goals and dreams didn’t work out for me, so I’m going to shit all over yours?” Or do they honestly believe anything other than the status quo doesn’t work?
Look, I know some dreams are . . . unusual. Improbable. I know how it sounds when I say, “Yeah, when my son turns 18, my husband and I are selling the house and going on a nation-wide motorcycle trip.” I know it’s not the status quo, and I know life sometimes throws a curve ball (believe me, I know — in the past 10 years, I’ve had an unplanned pregnancy, a parent die, my house flood, and a planned pregnancy that miscarried.)
The thing is, when someone says something akin to, “This is my dream goal, this is what I’m doing to achieve it,” that is not the appropriate time to laugh and say, “That’s a nice plan, but it’s not going to happen.”
Dreamers are not stupid, not all of us. I can’t fully generalize, but there are practical-minded dreamers out there, and plenty of them. We know our dreams are not going to be easy or simple to achieve. We know it’s not a matter of waking up one morning and saying, “Well, dream time. Goodbye, nine-to-five!” We know we have to pay our dues to get to that point, and that life will throw us curve balls we will need to overcome.
So I just want all the nay-sayers, all those people who act like we’re starry-eyed idiots who haven’t given this any thought, to zip their lips. I know what your problem is: you’ve never achieved your own dreams, for whatever reason. Or maybe you did, and they didn’t turn out quite like you’d planned. But that is no reason to go around being all negative nelly about other people’s plans and dreams.
To quote the lessons of my youth: A dream is wish your heart makes; and dreams are what make life worth living.
Even if I never actually achieve my dreams, isn’t it better to have dreamed and tried and failed, then to have never dreamed, or tried at all?